Don’t let the hard days win.

It is easy to let grief keep your heart shattered. Your loved ones are watching, they are with you and they so badly do not want to see you hurting. While we should not think we have to dismiss or not acknowledge our grief when it surges, as that would feel like we are dismissing our loved one, we can work on building our broken heart back up and making it stronger.

Imagine your loved one watching you push through, for them, and smiling down on you. Let that smile guide you and push you to keep going. You are never going to fully heal all those cracks in your shattered heart, nor would you want to. They are now a part of you and how your loved one resides with you. However, you can work on growing that muscle strong again…it can even thrive again.

This is not going to happen in a day, a week, or even a year. It is going to slowly heal until one day you realize that you didn’t spend the whole day with an unbearable heartache as you had been. You are breathing more steadily and not holding your breath as often. You’re going to see something that reminds you of them and smile instead of cry. Slowly, waxing and waning, you are going to learn to live again.

But how…
Find your peaceful triggers. Take a walk. Go outside and touch the grass, the trees, look up at the sky and let the sun warm your heart. Listen to music that makes you happy. Meditate…can’t say this enough even though I am not good at it and don’t do it often enough. It is so good for regulating your nervous system. Dance. Journal. Love on your pets and if you don’t have one consider it… Your soul will thank you.

Little by little, step by step. Your loved one will be cheering you on. Do it for them. 💛💛💛

Love,
Michelle, David and Hobi

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